Friday, January 4, 2013

Friends; How Many of Us Have Them?

Friends; how many of us have them? There’s much to be said about friendship. We all desire friends. These are people we can depend on, trust, communicate with, rely on, cry with, build towards, laugh together, etc. Our constant struggle for friendship oftentimes leaves us broken and without the very relationship we struggle to attain, a great friendship.

The friendship between David and Jonathon, a son of King Saul, is a beautiful representation of loyalty, honor, and respect. Jonathon risked his own life for his friend's sake. This type of union doesn't happen everyday in our society, especially seeing how selfish and prideful many can be. Neither David or Jonathon were concerned about each other's wealth, trying to get each other involved in business schemes, or attempting to see what they could take from each other. The friendship was based on mutual submission, which is a byproduct of true love.

Having a relationship like David and Jonathon could be a very risky thing; however, it is well worth it in the end. We must understand that love is the foundation for a great friendship. Also, there must be transparency. A friendship should be a safe haven from the rest of the world. The very presence of a friend should provide comfort and peace. A great friendship is so honest that it allows for a great deal of judgement. Friends give one another an opportunity to correct one another in love. They sharpen one another for the health of the relationship. 

I would encourage you to evaluate those you refer to as friends. Understand that the word "friend" is an honorable word. It is a title that should not be bestowed on just anyone. It is one that should be earned. Jesus said, "You are my friends if you do what I command." (John 15:14) Notice the restriction He places on friendship. He did not make it all-inclusive. The requirement is clearly stated. Make sure your requirements are biblical, righteous, just and fair.

Lastly, be the friend you desire to have in others. Show yourself friendly. Reach out to that person you look up to and greatly respect. Start a conversation. Don't be afraid to make friends with people who do not look or act like you. The diversity will be a great thing because it will cause you to grow and mature. Be sure your circle is filled with people who are focused on maturing. Honestly, you can't be sharpened by a dull blade, and you'll cut yourself playing around with a sharp one.


To purchase Cornelius' newest book, I'm Married. Now, What?, visit It is also available on Amazon Kindle. 

In this book, you will be encouraged to:
  • Understand the connection between our Christian faith and family
  • Compare the “ideal” marriage to what actually happens in marriage
  • Learn about the relationship between you, your spouse, and God
  • Realize how to break free from feeling like a prisoner in your marriage
  • Learn what it means to be a submitted wife or a peace-making husband
Also, read the tough, personal stories Cornelius shares about his marriage. Inside, he shares some intimate moments he and his wife experienced when a very tragic situation occurred that rocked their marriage to the core. You will be encouraged by what you read, and realize that you are not alone.

1 comment:

  1. I was actually just considering writing a new blog post on friendship. This was very insightful. I have always said that David and Johnathan were the first "BROmance" as our society calls it today. They were BFFs in every sense of the word. I wish more men were comfortable enough with being transparent and vulnerable that we could see more friendships like this.

    God bless.

    ashley danielle